Tired, up at 6:20 to get the kiddo ready for school. Seeing him off on the bus, coffee, breakfast, morning news....
Just a typical weekday morning. All that changed with a simple status update I posted on my Facebook page, inquiring about the new H&M store coming to my local mall...
"Douglasville peeps: anyone know when H&M is opening at Arbor Place? I need me some new skinny jeans!!"
I set down my iPad and went about my normal morning routine and checked it about 30 minutes later to find this:
Now when I first read this comment, I was sort of like "is he kidding? He's obviously kidding."
I'm not a skinny girl but I'm certainly not shopping in the plus section either. Not there's ANYTHING wrong with that. I've shopped there in the past but I've lost about 25 pounds since then. I'm pretty proud to be fitting into a size 12 after spending a few years in a size 16.
The more I re-read his comment, the angrier I got. Now with that said, I don't recall ever even seeing this man in person. He only knows what my body looks like from pictures I upload to Facebook. What gives him the right to even question whether I'm skinny enough for skinny jeans?
So I responded as you see above and posted a simple status asking why people feel the need to say things with no filter, why they don't think before the hit the post button...and told my Facebook friends if they wanted to know what I was referring to, go read my last status.
If you read the comments posted after Mr. Giglia's, you'll see my friends did EXACTLY THAT.
So I unfriended this person and decided to let it slide. He didn't know me, hasn't seen my body in person. Not worth my time.
And then I notice I have a private message.....I click on it and this is what I see.
I'm flabbergasted. Shocked. Stunned. Was he SERIOUS? I mean COME ON. Can someone really be this stupid?
That's when it hit me.
He's a bully.
He is bullying me about my weight. Just like so many others are experiencing in this country on a daily basis. Think of how many stories you've seen on the news lately about people being bullied about their weight....
The News Reporter in Winsconsin by the name of Jennifer Livingston who took a stand on air and told her bully off.
The bus monitor in New York who was bullied by CHILDREN so badly, people raised over 3/4 of a million dollars so she wouldn't have to endure that pain anymore.
Just this morning on the Today Show, I saw a story on a 18 year old girl who decided to take back her power from her bullies by posting a picture on herself online in nothing but her bra and panties.
And you know what?
She was a size 12 and she was BEAUTIFUL.
The craziest thing about this is I NEVER expected for this to happen to me. Yes, I'm not a skinny girl, probably never will be thanks to a hormonal condition called PCOS that I've had for years.
But I'm a NICE GIRL. I have lots of friends, always have, always will. And I thought that was enough to save me from a bully's wrath.
This just proves the point that so many have made: you CAN be bullied, anytime, anywhere, over anything.
I have blocked this person on my Facebook account so the messages have stopped permanently but the support and well wishes from my friends and family have continued through today.
And I love each and every one of them for it.
But I'm moving on.
I have a wonderful husband that loves me, thinks I'm the most beautiful and sexy woman on the planet. And a son that looks at my with so much love in his eyes, I could burst with happiness.
Those are the important things.
Their opinions are the only ones that truly matter.
And tomorrow, I'm going shopping for another pair of skinny jeans.
And I'm going to look AMAZING in them.
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